Why its Hard to Love Yourself

Promoting self love, growth, validation, identity, self help and self help tools

Why is it so hard to love myself?

Self love is a tricky topic and something that is often explored in therapy…

Many things hinder our ability to love ourselves such as unrealistic societal expectations and assumptions, stereotypes of the boxes people think you should fit into, toxic beauty standards, the way white supremacy and heteronormativity show up in our culture and tells us that we are unacceptable if we do not look or do things a certain way, trauma from the childhood of constantly being compared to other kids and told we are not good enough, our identities never being validated or affirmed, our bodies being picked apart by friends or family members, never being told that we are beautiful the way we are, and the list goes on and on

These things are problematic because they hinder our ability to believe in ourselves and know who we are because we are constantly trying to seek validation in external things such as in materials or in people, we shrink ourselves to please others to be affirmed, or we are constantly running away from ourselves because we believe that we are not good enough by someone else’s standards

The cliche saying is if you can’t love yourself then how can you love others

I think the saying should be if you can’t love yourself then it may be more difficult to show up for others but I would rather you want to start your journey of self-love because you want to rather than you’re worried about other people because a lot of the time that is how we ended up in this self-hatred or identity crisis in the first place

There is no formula or quick path to loving yourself but understanding why you have trouble with it is a great place to start

Comment below if self-love is something you struggle with and share what has helped you 💗

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August 2, 2022August 9, 2024

How Do We Prioritize Our Mental Health in a Capitalist Society?

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How Does Capitalism Play a Role in Our Mental Health?

When I see a client who is experiencing extreme stress, and burnout one of the main sources of those stressors is often their job. We are taught from a young age that our worth is tied to productivity and ALL of us have experienced some type of praise or punishment for how well we can produce. In 2023 we are all collectively experiencing inflation and are noticing how no matter our levels of productivity we are met with low pay, layoffs, poor working conditions, abusive working environments, praise for self-abandonment, and punishment for setting boundaries.

This leads us to an inability to pay bills, experience displacement and homelessness, inability to receive health care, and overall struggle to get our basic needs met. All of these things can leave us with our mental health in shambles and sometimes cause pre-existing mental health conditions to get worse.

Do we internalize the way capitalism affects our mental health?

Yes! This is called internalized capitalism. Internalized Capitalism can look like…

Believing your self-worth is tied to productivity
Feeling guilty when you do something you enjoy
Prioritizing work over relationships
Prioritizing work over health
Sunday scaries “dreading or feeling anxious about work”
You tell yourself rest = laziness
Anxiety and stress about losing a job, buying food, clothing, or a home
Exhaustion and depression
Suppressing emotions due to being overworked
The belief that hard work = happiness or success
Self-blame for systemic issues

How do we prioritize our mental health while living in a capitalist society?

We have to unlearn, explore, and fight in many different ways to engage in liberation from these capitalist ideals. To begin, we need to prioritize ourselves, lean in community with our loved ones, and be affirmed/validated in our experiences. But the most important thing is to keep dreaming and having hope for a world that allows us to thrive. Below are some anti-capitalist affirmations and journal prompts to help you in your process.

Anti-Capitalist Affirmations

There is no such thing as a “real job.” All forms of work are real and valid
I do not need to accomplish things to be enough. I am already worthy and enough
I am not defined by what I produce
I get to define what success looks like
Doing nothing is good for me
I am allowed to play and create things that are not perfect
I do not need to make money from my hobbies
It is enough to spend time doing things I love

Anti-Capitalist Journal Prompts

How would your mental health change if you woke up tomorrow and knew that no matter what your basic needs would be met?
What are your beliefs or assumptions about money and work? Where did those beliefs come from?
When was the first time you experienced or witnessed labor exploitation? Burnout? A toxic working environment?
How did those experiences affect your mental health?
What did your family’s relationship to money growing up look like? How has that affected you today?
What does anti-capitalism mean to you?

How do we address mental health and capitalism in therapy?

Addressing how capitalism affects mental health is an essential part of the therapeutic process for many clients. Often we place blame on ourselves while creating harmful narratives that we are the problem instead of looking at how systemic issues have harmed us. In therapy, I help clients process their feelings and notice how those narratives affect them. In some cases, we go further and set up action plans to either work towards changing the way they navigate through their work environments or make plans to remove themself from those environments and move towards spaces that meet their needs and align with their values.

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July 7, 2022December 29, 2023

Therapy, Social Justice, and Counseling

The Place Where Social Justice and Counseling Meet

Thank you for being here. I wanted to share a little more about myself and how I combine social justice and counseling. Although I am just starting my career, I have had the pleasure of getting involved in local projects like starting a food pantry at a local middle school, where I led in mental health advocacy, providing community resources to underserved communities, case management, crisis management, and providing individual/ family/group counseling. This taught me how to approach therapy in a different way using a holistic approach to understanding how a person’s environment, the different systems they interact with, and their family dynamics affect who they are and their mental health.

How I Serve My Community

Counseling is one of the ways I like to serve my community, the other way I reach people outside of the Orlando/Kissimmee area is with my podcast “Problem with Authority” podcast where I share my thoughts on hot topics, alongside some special guests. We cover topics like social justice, and how policy impacts our everyday lives and mental health.

My Mission

Liberation Counseling came from my desire to provide the state of Florida access to quality mental health services, I want to make counseling an affordable and accessible option for everyone, and aside from helping, I want to take new and innovative practices and bring them into our sessions because we are all different and find liberation in different ways.

Ready to Request an Appointment?

I do everything I can to make it easy for you, and that is why I provide my services virtually. It gives you the chance to set time for your mental health at any point of the day, whether that’s on the car ride to work, during lunch, after school, or whenever you find a quick 50 minutes in your day. When you are ready, click here to reach out.